I love weddings because a wedding is a wonderful gift a couple gives to family and friends. For an afternoon, an evening we’re allowed to put aside the messiness of daily life and to focus on what really matters — love, loyalty, friendship. A wedding really is an oasis from the grind of daily life — a celebration that renews and refreshes all who join in.
Last week I shared with you three of the top ten things I’ve learned about weddings over more than twenty years of officiating ceremonies. Here’s the remaining seven:
No two-year-old should have to walk down a long aisle by him or herself with a hundred “giants” looking on, oohing, ahhing, and snapping photos! I’ve seen too many bewildered, terrified toddlers — let them at least walk with another child who is a few years older.
The money you spend on a wedding coordinator is the best money you’ll spend on your wedding! A coordinator is there to worry about the details that you, your mother, or best friend shouldn’t have to be concerned about on your wedding day.
I’ve yet to meet a bride, obsessed with having the “perfect” day, who truly enjoyed the day. Your goal is to create a memory that will cause people to smile five years later. From that goal perfection will flow. But if you begin with focusing solely on the perfection, you’ll soon forget what “magic” looks feels like.
Even if you don’t believe in God, you can have a ceremony that is warm, gracious, and that celebrates you as a couple.
It’s possible to create a ceremony that honors different cultures and traditions in a way that unites rather than divides. It’s possible to weave varying traditions in a way that doesn’t create “dueling deities” or one-upmanship.
Your wedding really is a gift to family and friends — no matter how jaded we are, we all hunger for meaning and for something and some ones we can place our hope in.
Lastly, couples that try not to cry in the ceremony make some very odd faces! I’ve looked at brides and grooms and thought they were on the verge of having a seizure, but they later explained: “I didn’t want to cry so I tried not to blink.” You’ve spent so much time, emotion, and money on this moment so I say, cry all you want! Besides, if the groom cries guests feel like they got their money’s worth and will slip an extra $50 into the envelope!
Remember: Your wedding is a touch point along your journey together — celebrating the life you have created, celebrating the life you’re committed to creating. Cheers!
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