“Kwitchurbelyakin” and Spread Some Love
People are angry! Listening to cable news and certain talk shows is very difficult these days. They are chewing people up and spitting them out like so much garbage. The fact that character assassination sells should tell us that some of us are not very nice people. How can we put down those whose hearts we don’t know, and whose shoes we haven’t walked in? Without having all the facts in a given situation, we start shouting, “Off with their heads.” Judging harshly leaves very little room for compassion. Beware; every slanderous act will eventually boomerang.
Unforgiving hearts want someone to pay for every little thing. There is no such thing as a simple accident anymore. Someone must pay the price, even for the slip of the tongue. One is not free to have an opinion unless it fits the “politically correct” mold. If you’re one that is always being offended, stop taking things so personally! If it isn’t your problem or a matter of life and death, leave it alone and quit belly aching.
Now that I got that off of my chest, let’s talk about love. February is the month we celebrate Valentine’s Day by showering our loved ones with fancy dinners, flowers and gourmet chocolates. Of course, we should be showing our loved ones special attention all year long. However, without meaning to, most of us are guilty of taking the people closest to us for granted. Therefore, relationships suffer. We could all take a few pointers from John A. Andrews. His enlightening book “Spread Some Love (Relationships 101)” is filled with wisdom that, if put into practice, will make life much easier in the love department.
The book was born out of his failed marriage which ended after 13 years. Since then, Andrews has read dozens of books on relationships and associated himself with several experts on the subject, including Pastors Philip and Holly Wagner. Andrews has become an expert on marriage and states: “If a person isn’t willing to work on him or herself, they should stay out of the falling in love business; the world is full of too many abandoned relationships and broken hearts.” This book is for men who don’t know what woman want, and for women who don’t know what men require. It touches on communication, romance, falling out of love, keeping the fires burning with the three letter word in love (sex), and many more important relational issues.
It is a scientific fact that the human soul needs love. The emotion of love is a powerful tool. Love heals, love inspires, love rejuvenates, love creates a safety zone, and love brings us closer to God. Love is a basic ingredient for health. If there is no love in our life, we cannot sustain a healthy heart. Though everyone is not the other half of a couple, love can be experienced from parents, siblings, faithful friends or pets. True love is selfless and free from fear, pouring itself out upon the object of its affection without demanding anything in return. Love sees no wrong and ceases to be jealous or vengeful.
Couples sometimes treat each other as the enemy, forgetting that they are on the same side. Take a good, long look at the person you once adored, before you discovered their ugly “stuff.” Forget your needs for the moment and concentrate on making the love of your life happy. The man or woman who practices the spiritual law of love finds perfect love. I didn’t say a perfect marriage or perfect relationship, I said perfect love. (You will never receive what you have never given.) Women: Men thrive on respect and honor—let him be king of the castle. Men: If you want to be treated like a king, cherish your woman and treat her like a queen. Love and cherish each other—life is too short!
The Biblical love chapter in I Corinthians 13:4-7 tells us this: “Love suffers long, and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”
April Shenandoah’s new book “Kwitchurbelyakin” is slated for a fall release.