Do you feel that people have the right to take their own life?

Marc, Glendale, CA.

Marc,

I believe people do have the right to take their own life. We were ALL given free choice or free will; however one wants to phase it.

I think it is sad and heartbreaking when someone makes the decision to terminate his or her life. We are not in their shoes and we don’t feel the disconnection from life, the pain or the struggle that they have felt. Not the same way that they have experienced pain. We can go through the same experience and anguish that others go though, yet emotionally deal with the experience differently.

Some people I have personally worked with do not, or have never, really felt comfortable on this planet. For whatever reason, the pain or guilt is so strong that they succumb peacefully to the ultimate decision.

Can they be helped? Probably. But are they willing or strong enough to do the work or get the help they need? In many cases, no. Is it selfish for someone to take their own life, or is it selfish for their loved ones to expect them to continue to be miserable? This last option is the only way they know.

I know a few people that take depression medication and simply exist. Emotionally they are numb. They smoke, drink and don’t take care of themselves physically, emotionally or spiritually. By the way, they have already tried to commit suicide. They didn’t want help, and they did not want to change.

Aren’t many of us committing suicide each and every day by, speeding, over eating, drinking, doing drugs, etc.? In many ways most of us are probably committing suicide by not taking good care of ourselves on many levels.

Someone I loved took their own life, and it was devastating. I felt tremendous guilt. But, if that is how the person can find peace, how can I begrudge or feel bad for them? I feel sorrow that I couldn’t help them, and I miss them. We cannot truly help someone that is not open to it, only love them and pray for their highest good and that they find the peace, contentment and happiness that they are looking for. Whatever life lesson’s, they came to learn they will still need to learn – either here or on the other side.

Blessings,
Sandy

Martha
Culver City, CA

Dear Martha,
As I tune in with Mama, I get she has an upset stomach and that she is extremely nervous. She has nowhere to go to feel secure in the house—notice I did not say the “home.” There appears to be a lot of disruption and tension in the house, so Mama neither feels safe nor does she feel wanted. She is peeing everywhere in order to feel safe. The smell of her own urine helps her feel more protected and secure, and the releasing of the urine helps to release her tension.
You do not spend much time with her either and she is more connected to you than with anyone else in the house. She needs your attention. She also gets bored but that is because of the lack of attention and feelings of not being wanted. Our pets are sensitive to what is going on with us. Mama is reacting to the stress in the household and to your inability to control what is going on there. Learning to work with Mama will help you to learn how to work with the other areas in your life that feel out of control and are creating stress.
Move Mama’s sandbox, food and bedding with her natural scent on it (not the urine scented), into an area of the house where it is quiet. She needs to be able to escape to a quiet place, away from the family. To help create a more harmonious mood in the house, put on soft music. The right music is a good energy shifter, clearing away heaviness and tension and bringing in lightness and healing.
DO NOT scold Mama for urinating outside of her box anymore. Gently pick her up, give her love and then put Mama in her sandbox. Putting her in the sandbox after she has soiled somewhere else will allow her to get reacquainted with where she is supposed to go to the bathroom. Make sure the sandbox is clean; most cats do not like to use dirty sandboxes. While you have Mama sitting in her sandbox, pet her. Let her know how much she is loved. You have to FEEL what you are saying to her.
Spend more time with Mama. Even 10 to 15 minutes a day will make a huge difference. Hand feed her special treats throughout the day. Get the other family members involved in petting her and sending her good thoughts and feelings from the heart, not from the head. You may also envision sending her white light as you pet her. Animals are very sensitive and feel the energy we express with our thoughts.
Lastly, do not have anyone in the house mention that you will get rid of Mama or have her put her to sleep. Please do not let that be an option! This problem can be fixed. Please find the patience and understanding to work with this little soul that has come into your life, to help you grow to be a better person.
With love and gratitude,
Sandy Smith

Sandy Smith is a psychic, medium and healer for individuals and pets in the Los Angeles area. She can be reached at (562) 708-7345 or by email at sandy@sandysmith.info. You can also visit her Web site at www.sandysmith.info.

Thank-you,
JD, La Habra

Dear JD,
It is not always the people we have helped who return the favor by helping us. You may find that it will be others who step in to help when you have a need. In many ways, you give too much of yourself and do not honor your own needs and talents. You rely upon others to appreciate you, instead of appreciating and respecting yourself.
Bottom line—you can expect about 300 dollars from a few of the people to whom you lent money. The best way to deal with the anger, which is really not directed toward those to whom you loaned money but back at yourself for being taken advantage of by these people, is to forgive yourself for lending out the money in the first place.
Focus on receiving abundance to take care of your needs. Your abundance is not necessarily provided by any one person but by the universe; stay open to the universe’s ability to bring in the money or resources you desire.
Bless those you have helped, ask that they be blessed abundantly in their life and let them go in a loving way.
Coming from a loving position will help you to be open to receiving. Anger and hatred only inhibit our ability to receive. Do not lend money and do not work for free without first praying to see if it is the right thing to do.
Many times we can interfere with another’s life lessons by providing for them when they need to go through an experience or process for growth.
Your anger will recede when you allow yourself to be more open to the universe taking care of you and providing for you, and when you have let go of those you’ve helped. You learned a great lesson in setting boundaries and in doing favors without expectations.
With love and gratitude,

Sandy

Dear Sandy:
It feels as if there’s a female entity hanging around the house, specifically in the bedroom, where I’m staying. I think it is the deceased mother-in-law of the current owner. The room gets VERY cold to the point where I get chilled. I often wake up between 3-3:15am because the room has become icy cold.
This morning I awakened in such despair and with no constitution for living. It wasn’t like me at all. I was wondering if this was the feeling of the mother-in-law before she passed away, supposedly, locked in her bathroom. Could she have committed suicide?

Thank-you for your insight,
Annie R., Pacific Palisades

Dear Annie,
I feel the presence of the wife of the man who lives in the house in which you are currently living. She feels the need to take care of her husband. Her presence is very strong in the kitchen and in the inside porch area. This spirit has a lot of anxiety, and a feeling of helplessness. She does not want you there; this is her house, and this is her husband!
There is also a grandmother present in this home, and yes, she is related to the deceased wife. It does not come through though that she committed suicide. It feels that she slept in the room you have taken as your bedroom.
Pray for their highest good, and visualize them in divine white light. By doing this, the deceased wife will know that you are not a threat to her.
Visualize the wife and the grandmother in this white light to help bring them spiritual support. Lastly, I would have someone come in and spiritually cleanse the house so it may become a home.

Blessings,
Sandy

With love, gratitude and
lightness,
Sandy Smith

Sandy Smith is a psychic, medium and healer for individuals and pets. She can be reached at (800) 579-4622, or by emailing sandy@sandysmith.info. You can also visit her Web site at www.sandysmith.info.

Jennie,
Redondo Beach, CA

Dear Jennie,
I do get that you should leave California, however, not for the reasons you stated. The move should take place in about three years and will be based upon your spiritual needs and new beginnings. You will then be at a place in your life where you will focus your energies in a whole new direction. You will have come to terms with the past, find peace in who you are in your life, and feel positive about your future. If you do your internal work and stay flexible with what is important for you to deal with within yourself, then this process will take only a few years. I’m picking up New Mexico or Colorado for your relocation. Albuquerque, New Mexico, seems prominent.

Sandy

Dear Sandy,
My father, Ryan, has lung cancer and is going through chemotherapy twice a week. I know he is weak from his disease and treatment. I would like to know if you can tell me if he will be able to pull through his illness. If not, can you help prepare me by telling me how much time he has left?

Thank you,
Frances,
Northridge, CA

Dearest Frances,
I’m sorry that you, your father, and your family, have to go through this experience. Regardless of what someone tells you psychically, always pray for your father’s complete healing on physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual levels, as all are integrated and equally important. Pray also for your father’s highest good, because that is ultimately what is important when we pray for someone. I’m sorry, but I’m not seeing your father pulling out of disease. He may have less than four months left here. I do not feel that his will to live is strong. Pray for your own strength, wisdom, and peace to carry you through this difficult time. It is important for you to care for yourself, too, which will allow you to have the energy to nurture and benefit your father and family. Please refer to my website: www.sandysmith.info, for prayer and support groups, should you need them. I wish you and your family the very best.

With love,
Sandy Smith

Sandy Smith is a psychic, medium and healer for individuals and pets. She can be reached at (800) 579-4622, or by emailing sandy@sandysmith.info. You can also visit her Web site at www.sandysmith.info.

Thank you,
Louise, Glendale

Dear Louise,
I’m sorry you lost your job. These are extremely difficult times. Your feelings of betrayal are understandable, having been devoted to, and given to, one company for that length of time. The hurt, anger and fear are quite normal. And you are absolutely right, it is a type of divorce, and your situation is exacerbated by the condition or our economy.
Your doctor is correct, you need to give yourself sometime to recharge, deal with your feelings and enjoy life a little. You are not in a good place emotionally to try to take on anything new right now. Your physical energy is low, and a break would do you well.
Financially, just do what you have to right now to get through the summer. You will get back on your feet in about six months. I see a permanent position opening up in September or October, coming through a friend or family member. Give yourself until the middle of August, and then look into doing some part-time work until the permanent position opens up.

Blessings,
Sandy

Dear Sandy,
I’ve been feeling like my mom doesn’t really know me at all. She often suggests things that drive me a bit crazy. I easily feel overwhelmed at this time, and require peace. Do you think my mother likes to push my buttons? Or does she just come from her perspective of what she would do? I often feel that she doesn’t get out of herself enough to understand my needs, which are different from hers. I also fear that she believes that I don’t care for, or love her, because of my current limitations. I appreciate any insights you can offer.

Sincerely,
Wanda, Reseda

Dear Wanda,
It is extremely difficult for any of us to truly experience a situation from another person’s perspective. We normally rely upon our own experience to guide us in understanding and helping others. Your mother does not understand you because the two of you are so different. You are more emotional and sensitive, and she is more practical and detached. Give her the facts, without the emotion, and she will deal with your needs better. Listen to what your mother has to say, and then digest the information. Because you come into a conversation with your emotions, which interfere with your ability to be open and receptive to listening to another’s advice, it is important you not make any comments, or get back into the conversation, until you have processed the information you have been given.
Your mother does not know how to emotionally help you, nor is she intentionally trying to push your buttons. She tries to be available but I sense that she is not feeling well, which makes it more difficult for her to have the ability and the focus to give you what you need. If possible, I would rely on others for emotional support at this time.
As far as your mother feeling that you do not love her, make the effort to call her. Go visit her, and talk with her but keep it about your mother—don’t bring your issues into the conversation. Listen to what she has to say so she knows that you are also receptive to how she feels. Keep in mind that your mother currently has a lot of fear surrounding her health. She needs to know that she has support as well.
With love and light,

Sandy

Thanks,
Edwin, Canoga Park

Dear Edwin,
I’m going to be blunt: you and Wendy mirror one another. You both are lost emotionally, and have tremendous fear. You feel you have no real purpose in life, and Wendy wants to depend on you for emotional support to make her feel safe in the world. You are looking for the same in her.
It is like two starving people looking at each other for food and sustenance to fuel and support their bodies but there isn’t any to give. Getting sick is Wendy’s wake-up call. You had nothing to do with her getting sick. She has not emotionally, physically or spiritually taken care of herself, nor does she know how. Wendy also needs to stop drinking, and get herself into a program. She needs to find herself, and, for her, that is not an easy task. She carries a lot of guilt, to which she continues to add. But more pressing, since you are the one contacting me, is that this reading really applies to you, too. You’re fatigued because you’re depressed, defeated and bored with life. It’s one reason why you and Wendy feel you have no purpose—you don’t like life! You should find something to sustain you. A program such as AA is a good way to begin. Just take the first step, and the rest will follow. Even if you do not want to go, or you are tired, push yourself to go anyway. Joining a program first will help. In fact, the best way to help Wendy is to take care of yourself.
Once you’re involved in a program, your relationship will get better because you will feel better, be happier and have more to give. It is in the giving that you will receive because the two run hand in hand.

Best wishes to the two of you,
Sandy Smith

Dear Sandy,
Can you tell me why I’m not sleeping well? Last work week I averaged only three hours of sleep per night. For this week, through Wednesday, I’ve averaged one and a half hours of sleep! I’m not taking sleeping pills anymore because I don’t want to be messed up when I get up in the morning for work—they hadn’t been working anyway. I was taking up to six of them a night just to get some sleep. It doesn’t matter if I work hard at my job or if I do nothing there… it’s always the same. Night after night I lay awake in bed trying to fall asleep. The hours just keep passing, without the benefit of sleep.

Please help!
Andy, North Hollywood

Andy,
I know I don’t need to tell you that taking that many sleeping pills was dangerous. I’m happy to hear you changed that pattern on your own.
You are having difficulty sleeping because you’re not happy, you’re bored and you worry too much. Go out on your time off from work: go to the gym or do some physical exercise such as walking or biking, something to assist in releasing your stress. Exercising will help you to relax your body and your mind. You have a tendency to hold everything inside. The exercising will allow you to release pent-up negative energy, and feelings you are holding in your body. This negative energy can be from past situations or picked up daily from current experiences. Moving your body will release the negative energy, and increase your energy level, so you will have energy to go out, and do some of the things you should be doing.
Once you have built your energy level back up, look into an activity that will stimulate your mind in a positive way. You might consider taking a class or joining a group… or both! Your mind needs to stay busy with positive stimuli or, because it needs stimulation, it will create destructive thoughts to keep it busy. Taking a class and getting involved will keep your thoughts positive, make you feel good and help you with the boredom you are experiencing.
Finally, eat lighter before bed. I’m sensing that your body feels heavier at bedtime. If you eat lighter foods (fish, chicken, fruits vegetables) before you go to bed, your body will not have to work as hard to digest what you have eaten.
It is important that you achieve all three of the above: exercising your body, exercising your mind and taking up an activity as a positive outlet. This work will require discipline on your part, to shift your routine, to get the proper rest and to feel better, so you may become optimistic and enjoy your life.

Blessings to you,
Sandy Smith

Sandy Smith is a psychic, medium and healer for individuals and pets. She can be reached at (800) 579-4622, or by emailing her at sandy@sandysmith.info. You can also visit her Web site at www.sandysmith.info.