Contacting Your Loved Ones


Dear Sweet Spirits,
In this column, I’m going to address a question which is asked of me at social gatherings, when I do lectures, appear on television, and most recently when I was a guest on a worldwide radio show.
People from London, Australia, France, and of course, the United States, called in to the show, and many asked me how to make contact with their loved ones on the other side. My answer, I believe, is beautifully simple.
When we lose a loved one, they actually have not been lost to us forever. When we pass over, we will definitely see our loved ones again. But before that time, there is a way to contact them:
Sit quietly, alone or with someone else who is also a true believer. Do not, under any circumstances, work with anyone who could be considered a ‘Doubting Thomas’. That is only fighting your efforts.  Light a non-scented, tall, dinner-style red candle. Red attracts the spirits and lends energy.
Meditate in the same area of your home each time, and you can do it once or even 2-3 times a day, if you desire. But please don’t overdo the length of time you meditate. Remember that if the spirit isn’t really and truly ready, they may still try to force their way through for your sake and that should not happen. Keep your meditation time to no more than 10 minutes at a time. When you have used one red candle to its end, you may begin a new red candle, but again, I say don’t overtax the spirit world.
With the candle burning, call out the name of the person in spirit you long to connect with. Tell that person what is in your heart. For example, “I loved you then, and I love you now. Please, come to visit me” (‘us’, if you’re meditating with someone). It’s best to only call upon one spirit at a time, for their sake, and so that you don’t become confused by receiving too many spirit vibrations. You might add, “Aunt Helen, please let me know you’ve arrived safely in Paradise,” or some other comment to entice the spirit to make her presence known.
Attention: please make sure it’s been at least 2-3 months since the person made the transition to the spirit world. Remember, they need time to regain strength, become acquainted with the other side, and to visit their loved ones who were already there. They also need the opportunity to relax. Spirits have to adjust to their new life in Paradise.
You might have to call your aunt Helen for 3 or 4 sessions – it will take time. In fact, it could take 10 or more times to reach the particular spirit.  Be patient!  
After a period of time, you may hear a slight knock on the wall or a table, for example. You may hear footsteps or catch a shadow out of the corner of your eye. Whether you recognize that shadow or not, always protect yourself by saying, “If you’re a good spirit, you’re welcome.” Be aware that there are negative spirits who might try to get in, so use caution.
Ask the spirit to make their identify known. And I should tell you that even when you ask for a particular spirit, it’s possible that spirit is busy, or unable to come through with enough strength. So a spirit may be sent in their place – another friend or loved one. It’s important not to reject that spirit, because they, too, are anxious to reach you.
Please don’t be confused by what the cinematic version of the spirit world is. The whole body does not appear – it’s often just a scent, a mist, or a white light- just enough to let you know there is a presence.
In so many films, the so-called medium distorts his or her face so dreadfully, as though spirit contact is painful. The room becomes full of fear. No spirit would want to come into such a room. Spirits are looking for the same thing we are – a warm and tender meeting, not a terror-filled experience.
Several weeks ago I got the scent of perfume that my mother wore. I must tell you that I cried with happiness. Now, I have heard from her many times with more extensive contact, but even this scent made me ecstatic.
Once you’ve established contact, you can begin to establish a code to use in communicating.  Ask your loved one to knock once, for example, for yes, and twice for no. Ask them to leave an apport for you – a physical object of some sort that identifies them. You could also ask for an omen – a sign of some type such as your hearing their name out of the blue in a conversation, hearing their favorite song on the radio, seeing their nickname on a license plate while you’re driving.
You will not just be having a psychic experience once you begin contacting spirits, you will be having a mediumistic experience, having contact with both worlds – ours and the spirit world.
There’s no doubt in my mind that eventually, you will make contact with your loved one. Be patient and loving because they want to come back to you, but can only do so at their own pace and as they are able to. Don’t force the contact – it will happen when the spirit is ready, and when you are.
It is an experience you can definitely achieve. Good luck to all of you and please write to me when you’ve made this glorious contact.
In my next column, Sweet Spirits, I will devote the entire space to answering your letters.

Personally handwrite a letter to Kenny, seal and mail it yourself, then look for his answer in a future issue.  Send your question to Kenny Kingston, PO Box 1857, Studio City, CA 91614. For more information on Kenny Kingston, visit

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